Guarding the Heart!

One of my greatest fears following my 17 year marriage was that I didn't become bitter! I knew I had been wronged, mishandled, lied too and cheated on but I was determined not to become a bitter divorced woman.  It took quite some time before I would open up and allow myself to be courted … Continue reading Guarding the Heart!

Where is the Black Man’s Support System?

I've discovered that when I work out alone I do better to listen to something inspirational, educational or motivational rather than simply music.  It  seems to keep my focus on the content rather than the workout which makes it go by much faster.  Today was no different but when I attempted to listen to one … Continue reading Where is the Black Man’s Support System?

The PINNACLE Only Comes with the CLIMB!

  Today I had the honor and privilege to do a mountain hike of Crowder's Mountain NC with my seventeen year old daughter, my girlfriend for her 45th birthday and 3 additional ladies that I met for the first time this morning.  It had been 22 years since the last time I hiked and I … Continue reading The PINNACLE Only Comes with the CLIMB!

What Kind of Man are Women 30 and Over Looking for in 2017?

I can only associate my perspective of what women are looking for in a great man from my own experiences and discussion with other single women.  Most of us have some of the same concerns and parallels regardless of whether we have been married or desire too.   It's always interesting for me to hear … Continue reading What Kind of Man are Women 30 and Over Looking for in 2017?

Is Your Support As Big As Your Circle?

  This quote speaks volumes to me especially in this season of my life.  As the diagram to the right illustrates there are various levels to your circle of friends.  Friendships are something that I hold near and dear.  I know a lot of people but there are very FEW that I would call a … Continue reading Is Your Support As Big As Your Circle?

Should SHE be in Pursuit of HIM?

I've been single "again" since 2011 and in my adjustment to the "new age" version of dating I have witnessed the perception of gender roles that do not reflect the mentality from previous decades. My mother always taught me that a woman is sought after by a man.  She doesn't chase, seduce or manipulate to … Continue reading Should SHE be in Pursuit of HIM?

The Event We Once Called “DATING”

As a middle-aged woman I find the single "again" lifestyle rather taunting and even difficult at times.  I got married 20 years ago the same year I graduated college.  My perception at that time was that this was a lifetime commitment and I would spend the rest of my days with this one man until … Continue reading The Event We Once Called “DATING”

I’m Getting Married but I Want to Keep My Money Separate from HIS!

I was rather intrigued and excited for two young ladies that shared their beautiful engagement rings this week on Facebook and interestingly enough both of them raised this question to their friends, "I have more money in my account than he does.  When I get married should I share with him or keep my money … Continue reading I’m Getting Married but I Want to Keep My Money Separate from HIS!